Sunday, June 30, 2013

SGI and Codependency

SGI:
Denial patterns:
  • I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling. — So busy are you with SGI activities and ingratiating yourself to higher level leaders.
  • I minimize, alter or deny how I truly feel. — about the SGI mentor disciple teachings, for example.
  • I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well being of others. — Even chanting for a female marijuana seed is an activity for SGI and Kosen Rufu.
Low self-esteem patterns:
  • I have difficulty making decisions. — Seeking guidance from every SGI Tom, Dick, and Harry.
  • I judge everything I think, say or do harshly, as never “good enough.” — You need to rededicate yourself to SGI, more meetings, more activities.
  • I am embarrassed to receive recognition and praise or gifts. — Only the mentor can receive such praise and gifts.
  • I do not ask others to meet my needs or desires. — I live for the Soka Gakkai and protecting the mentor.
  • I value others’ approval of my thinking, feelings and behavior over my own. — What if my leader should tell me I have weak faith or I am shunned for my beliefs?
Compliance patterns:
  • I compromise my own values and integrity to avoid rejection or others’ anger. — Never voicing one’s doubts, uncertainties, or criticisms of the SGI
  • I am very sensitive to how others are feeling and feel the same. — What if the others reject me for the way I feel [or don't feel] about the mentor, for example?
  • I am extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long. — Loyalty prized above actual accomplishment in the Soka Gakkai.
  • I value others’ opinions and feelings more than my own and am afraid to express differing opinions and feelings of my own. –See above.
  • I put aside my own interests and hobbies in order to do what others want. — More meetings, May Contribution and August shakubuku campaigns, for example
Control patterns:
  • I believe most other people are incapable of taking care of themselves. — Giving guidance whether or not guidance is sought.
  • I attempt to convince others of what they “should” think and how they “truly” feel. — “President Ikeda says we should…”
  • I become resentful when others will not let me help them. — “You lack faith”.
  • I freely offer others advice and directions without being asked. — see above
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2 comments:

  1. AnonymousJuly 1, 2013 at 6:12 PM

    Hello:
    >
    > I've written a song that reflects my impression of recent large
    SGI
    > meetings...No tune yet
    >
    > Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda,Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda
    Ikeda
    > Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda,Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda
    Ikeda
    > Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda,Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda
    Ikeda.
    > Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda,Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda
    Ikeda
    > Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda,Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda
    Ikeda
    > Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda,Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda
    Ikeda.
    > Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple,
    > Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple,
    > Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple,
    > Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple,
    > Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda,Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda
    Ikeda
    > Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda,Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda
    Ikeda
    > Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda,Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda
    Ikeda.
    > (Nichiren Gohonzon)
    > Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda,Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda
    Ikeda
    > Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda,Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda
    Ikeda
    > Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda,Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda
    Ikeda.
    > Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda,Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda
    Ikeda
    > Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda,Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda
    Ikeda
    > Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda,Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda
    Ikeda.
    > Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple,
    > Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple,
    > Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple,
    > Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple Mentor/Disciple,
    > Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda,Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda
    Ikeda
    > Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda,Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda
    Ikeda
    > Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda,Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda Ikeda
    Ikeda.
    >
    > We choose the mentor, not you!
    > And we won't shut up till you choose him too!
    > Mentor/disciple is not a personal decision,
    > Love him now or you'll face our derision!
    >

    A Song From the SGI boards one of the FLOCK
    must have written...

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  2. Mark RogowJuly 1, 2013 at 10:05 PM

    I just can't seem to get it out of my mind.

    ReplyDelete